I think it’s really important to get help. Get help. And do not deal with things on your own. As a caregiver … it takes an extreme toll to be able to take care of your loved one that way, even if it’s not a dignity issue. As the caregiver, you need to care for yourself. I can’t stress that enough — you need to get help. Don’t try to deal with things on your own. I’ve seen spouses deteriorate rapidly because they’re willing to go to the ends of the Earth for their loved one, and they feel like that’s the right way and that’s the right thing to do.
But the person they’re taking care of , they loved them, too, and they don’t want that to happen. That’s not what they want to do. So caregivers need to take care of themselves and get help … believe me, we want business, but we don’t want to take care of the caregiver because now they’re in that situation [of declining health because] they put themselves there.