I’m not sure the memory is still there. Occasionally I would bring Mom up, and one of the things you do with people who have Alzheimer’s is you cue them, you give them, for instance, when I go to see him I always call him Daddy or Dad, and if I mention [his son], I’ll say, “Your handsome son, [Joseph], is coming.” … I would always tell him who people are, and I would do that with my mother, if I would mention my mother.

This is maybe a year or two after she died because at first it just seemed to upset him, but he would say, “She was a beautiful woman. And he has pictures of her in his room, but I don’t really think he realizes — maybe way down inside he knows. And I know he knows I’m somebody important to him, but I’m not always sure he knows who I am. Probably me more than anyone else. He has glimmers where he’s a little more cognizant. There’s about seven stages to Alzheimer’s, and Dad is probably in stage seven.